Self-esteem is a combination of:

  • Self-Worth — A sense of your value as a person.
  • Self Confidence — A sense of confidence in yourself (doing, judging, thinking, etc).

What plays into the development of self-esteem?

  • Positive patterns and experiences in early, primary family relationships
  • Positive experiences with peers
  • Personal achievements (school, personal…)
  • Realized skills and talents
  • Physical and personality traits
  • Positive, optimistic thinking

What contributes to low self-esteem?

  • Negative experiences in early, primary family relationships (abuse, being ostracizes, neglect, etc.)
  • Negative experiences with peers (school, personal…)
  • Actual or perceived failures
  • Lack of developed skills or talents (lack of positive identity with others)
  • Being ‘different’ in any visible way to others (physically, emotionally, socially)
  • Embarrassment about one’s family
  • Addictions
  • Low self-esteem of parents
  • Inappropriate treatment of others

Achieving and maintaining self-esteem is a process, not an event.

Maintenance of self-esteem through:

  • Setting boundaries
  • Changing self-talk
  • Eliminating negative people and relationships from your life
  • Addiction recovery process
  • Defining and achieving “your” vision of success
  • Empathic understanding of mistakes and shortcomings
  • Forgiveness of self and others