Therapy For Self-Esteem
“True belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are.” ~ Brené Brown
- Live your life based on what you think you “should” do or are “obligated” to do?
- Think or act in ways you assume others expect of you?
- Do everything possible to please and avoid disappointing others, making mistakes or appearing imperfect?
- Believe that you must have love or approval from all the people in your life?
- Value yourself based on your appearance, weight, or social media “likes”?
- Constantly compare yourself to others?
- Have difficulty accepting compliments or having any attention drawn to you?
- Distract or numb through: eating, restricting, exercising, shopping, using alcohol or drugs, or being productive?
- Have difficulty setting boundaries or saying no to others?
- Have difficulty making decisions or figuring out what you TRULY want or need?
“The reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself.”
Imagine IF you were to learn how to get comfortable living your authentic life, feeling safe and content in your body, doing exactly what you truly want, without any fears of what others may, or may not, think or judge you on….
What if everything actually went right….
Are you ready to:
- Silence that inner bully in your head who tells you you’ll never be good enough?
- BE yourself without trying to PROVE yourself?
- Learn the tools and skills to finally put yourself first WITHOUT feeling guilty?
- Learn to listen to your inner gut intuition and act according to your authentic truth?
- Identify where you’re not living out your values?
- Explore how to have healthy relationships?
- Learn healthy ways to communicate directly and set boundaries with others?
- Overcome the anxiety and self-doubt you deal with, which you don’t allow anyone else see?
About Self Esteem
Self-esteem reflects what, and how, you think about yourself. Its all-encompassing and affects how you think, feel, and behave. It impacts your relationships with others and your relationship with yourself.
Healthy self-esteem is a realistic assessment and acceptance of your strengths and limitations. You feel confident about your appearance, your intelligence, personality, your abilities, and level of “success,” and don’t worry about what other people think of you.
Self-esteem influences just about every facet of your life. It informs self-care and self-respect, and the way you allow (teach) others to treat you and talk to you. Self-esteem affects how you value and communicate your needs, thoughts, and feelings and underpins personal integrity and your ability to pursue your goals and intentions. It determines your overall sense of well-being, how you parent, your success in the workplace, and how you show up in your relationships.
Origins of Self-Esteem
Healthy self-esteem is learned. Feelings of high or low self-esteem often start in childhood. Positive reinforcement during your developmental years is the strongest marker for positive self-worth later in life. Low self-esteem can stem from underlying shame if you didn’t feel unconditionally loved and valued by a parent. Growing up in a family that often expressed disapproval can unfortunately follow a person well into their adult life. Low self-esteem can also be a result of a negative school or work environment, or unhealthy relationship dynamics. You may have low self-esteem and lack self-confidence as a result of things that have happened to you in the past, or due to the ways you’ve internalized messages directed at you early on in life. None of which is your fault!
Low self-esteem is often connected to perfectionism, and your idea of how you “should” be and all the ways you “fall short.” The good news is that once you become self-aware of low self-esteem, you can take steps to greatly improve it and feel much better about your true, authentic, self.
Treatment for Low Self-Esteem
Therapy and changing your beliefs, behavior, and how you think about yourself can greatly raise your self-esteem. Since many people have struggled with self-esteem issues from early childhood until the present, it’s often necessary to seek therapy in order to change the long-standing narrative and (often) irrational unhealthy beliefs that contribute to your self-esteem.
Drawing on the various theories of Self-Compassion, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Person-Centered Therapy, Mindfulness, communication-skills, and work on vulnerability, we will identify the patterns of negative self- talk, beliefs, and behaviors that reinforce your low self-esteem. You can learn to evaluate and challenge your thinking and the belief systems that contribute to low self-esteem and self-worth. You’ll realize what does, and doesn’t, serve you and feel empowered to let things go. You will also learn about ways to change unhealthy and self-sabotaging behaviors that keep you stuck in the negative self-destructive loop.