Therapy For Couples
“All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on.” ~ Henry Ellis
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”
~ Carl Jung
- Does your relationship with your partner feel distant?
- Do you feel like the relationship is stuck at a standstill?
- Are you and your partner stuck in the same old argument loop every night?
- Do you or your partner act dismissive, defensive, critical, or contemptuous?
- Are you and your partner feeling frustrated, disconnected, resentful, or like you’re constantly walking on eggshells?
- Are you wondering what happened to the way things once were?
- Do you desire more intimacy and connection?
Something has changed, and it might feel like you’re both no longer trying.
It has become easier and easier to ignore the problem, hold onto resentments, or just do your own thing… You can’t remember the last time you both talked — really talked and connected.
We are social creatures. We strive towards feeling a sense of belonging and connection. Satisfying, long-term relationships require effective communication, mutual respect, and consideration of both partners’ needs.
While every relationship is unique, I believe that there is always a way to find repair and re-connection!
Couples therapy is tremendously helpful for you as a couple when you’re going through all sorts of challenges. Many relationships get stuck at some point and it can feel like an impossible mission to find your way back to how things once were.
Couples therapy offers a safe space to feel heard and work through issues and obstacles you can’t seem to clear on your own.
You and your partner will learn to better identify your needs and desires and attend to one another’s mutual growth.
You’ll learn each other’s love language(s) and triggers so that you can express and receive love in a meaningful and effective way.
Couples therapy can help get your relationship to a positive, loving, and safe place.
Some issues that bring couples to therapy are:
- Addiction/Partner addiction support
- Balance (Work/Life/Family)
- Blended families
- Chronic illness
- Different love languages
- Emotional disconnect
- Extended family
- Issues of trust, control, jealousy or possessiveness
- Feelings of betrayal/Infidelity
- Lack of affection or Intimacy
- Life transitions
- Mental illness
- One or both partners experiencing anxiety, depression, loss of a job or a family member
- Parenting issues
- Poor or ineffective communication skills
- Sex and intimacy
- Have the desire, ability and skills to communicate effectively and solve problems.
- Focus on addressing/taking care of the issue at hand, rather than attacking the other person.
- Find a way to stay connected, even when feeling triggered or angry.
- Forgive and move on once the matter is resolved.
- Are able to live and grow through discomfort and interpersonal difficulties.
I provide couples with a safe space to explore and resolve uncomfortable issues.
Sessions are collaborative and focused. You will learn strategies for healthier, happier communication, which will foster a deeper, more meaningful connection.
We’ll identify your goals for couples therapy by assessing the goals of each individual within the relationship, and we’ll work on a game plan on how to get there. We may explore how your individual backgrounds, beliefs, thoughts, and behaviors influence your relationship in both positive and negative ways. By learning how to communicate your feelings, and understanding how your behavioral dynamics inform and influence your habitual responses to each other, you can strengthen and deepen your connection from a more compassionate, open and healthy place.
We will work collaboratively to:
- Increase intimacy, honesty, safety, and feelings of connection.
- De-escalate and resolve conflicts.
- Understand what may be taking place for each of you and be able to express it in a safe space.
- Learn how to really become attuned to what the other’s emotions are and help you to truly hear each other without the noise of old baggage.
- Become more mindful of each other’s needs/wants and the overall needs of the relationship.
- Reconnect to who you were, and also to who you both are now.
- Gain a sense of being seen, heard, loved and validated.
- Bring romance back into your life.
- Manage financial issues.
- Develop tools for better, more effective, communication.
- Work through parenting issues.